The union of yin and yang, or not?

I always thought the union of an easy going perwon and a picky/not so easy going person would be good since the easy going person can complement the picky person but as it turns out, this might not be true! Because, by nature, the easy going person cannot understand the picky person. The easy going person cannot unnderstand the picky person's like and dislikes because such ways of seeing the world does not exist in the easy going persons' psyche. Thus, we have a big problem where the easy going person asks the picky person for the picky person's opinion on every little thing because he thinks that since he is easy going, he'll let the picky person make the choice. But this would cause the picky person very irritated and think that such small details, can't he decide himself?? But from the easy going person's point of view, he just doesn't want to see the picky person being irritated later and maybe scolding him and being unhappy so he soughts the picky person's opinion.

So there we have a double bind!